Dealing with the Controversial Personality
The confrontational person is always on the defensive just waiting to be attacked. You can imagine this person putting a sneer on their face and pulling a Robert De Niro impersonation and saying, “are you talking to me?” When dealing with this person never lose your composure. Keep in mind that any negative statements will be interpreted as an attack, so try and word any negative statements in a way that packs less of a sting. Sometimes there is no way around a negative comment, when this arises just be sure not to engage this person in an argument. Try and stay neutral, not negative.
About Baba Erinle
Baba Erinle, consort to Yemonja, the Orisa who fishes in Yemonja’s waters, is expert at matter of people and relationships. Baba would like to share some helpful advice in dealing with difficult personalities.
Not everyone is a difficult person to deal with all the time. But from time to time, we all run into situations where we found ourselves acting out of our normal personality. Inevitably we find ourselves saying something like, “I don’t know what it is about that person but they seem to bring out the worst in me.” Many times we find ourselves responding to a difficult personality by developing our own difficult persona as a countermeasure. In essence, we stoop to their level. Suddenly a quiet and tranquil setting can erupt into an argument that can lead to shouting matches and potentially physical fights. Here are some suggestions Baba Erinle has for dealing with some difficult personality types.
