Dealing with the Stubborn Personality

A stubborn individual is usually one who has decided not to learn anything new. “I’ve been doing it this way for x number of years and I don’t see any reason to change now.” It is helpful to remember that when dealing with this discontented personality that this individual is afraid that you might want to change something that they are deeply attached to. This person may actually be expressing a fear that you are trying to be too controlling for them. Give them the extra time to adjust to changes and do your best not to surprise them. Never make sudden demands and make sure to give them some options and choices. Be casual, and calm in your approach with them. Let them give input on issues, rather than telling them what to do.

Dealing with the Bitter Personality

These people resent other people’s opinions, especially when it relates to how they perform their job. You may have heard this type of individual say something akin to, “Who the hell they think they are?” This person may feel that they do their task best. Get them to contribute and keep them involved without letting them control. They may then feel they are representing their knowledge and should be more cooperative.

Dealing with the Bigheaded Personality

The bigheaded person has something to say about any and everything. This person is known to say something like, “me, me, me, me, it’s all about me.” This behavior is a form of greed and arrogance. These people have a problem listening to anyone but themselves. When dealing with the bigheaded person deal with facts and don’t fight with them on points. If you need to point out bad information, do it in the form of straightforward questions.

Dealing with the Spiteful Personality

The spiteful person has a distorted judgment of others. This person is basically envious and jealous of others. When dealing with this individual explain yourself thoroughly. Never lower yourself to their level. Try and deal with this person in an upbeat manner not giving them reason for spite or jealousy.

Dealing with the Chatty Personality

What doesn’t this person say? When does this personality type pass on an opportunity to add their two cents? The chatty person is one who feels they need to fill every empty second with sound. They are usually uncomfortable with any type of silence even when alone. To deal with this person you should scale down on open ended questions. Sometimes it can be beneficial to cut the person off, in a not too rude fashion. Above all be firm but loving.

Dealing with the Indecisive Personality

This type of person will take hours to make decisions and eventually will simply agree with prevailing opinion. This person is feeling insecure and doesn’t trust themselves. Give this person your trust. Let them know that you trust their abilities. This will give them the opportunity to trust themselves more. Try not to chastise or humiliate them, be as supportive as possible.

Dealing with the Controversial Personality

The confrontational person is always on the defensive just waiting to be attacked. You can imagine this person putting a sneer on their face and pulling a Robert De Niro impersonation and saying, “are you talking to me?” When dealing with this person never lose your composure. Keep in mind that any negative statements will be interpreted as an attack, so try and word any negative statements in a way that packs less of a sting. Sometimes there is no way around a negative comment, when this arises just be sure not to engage this person in an argument. Try and stay neutral, not negative.

Dealing with the Introverted Personality

“You wouldn’t want to hear my ideas” is one of the introvert’s favorite proverbs. The introverted person likes to withdraw from contact with others. When dealing with this person try to gain their trust and do all you can to protect it. Pull these people into conversation and activities. Be sure to respect their need to be alone or not to engage in socializing and social actions.